Pitamatar prokarbhed

Ni:sondehe, sneho nimnogamii. arthat kina baRite lok ele album khule (ejuger lokera doya kore udahoroNe handycam bosiye nin), 25-e Boishakhe nyaRamathay fetti bNedhe ‘Ha re re re re re’ nrityoroto apnar chhobi dekhachchhen baba maa, e drishyer sombhabona anek beshi anyo drishyotir cheye, jekhane tiffin period-e apni apnar babar shobdochhok somadhaner aschorjo protibhar boRai korchhen.

Kintu joto boyos baRchhe ulto surta totoi probol hoye uthchhe ter pachchhi. amader niye baba maayer obsession-er theke khub kom noy babamaake niye amader adikhyeta. apnader kotha janina, amader saptahik addar ekta birat angsho juRe thake baba maayeder golpo. sobbar babarai je chhotobelay ‘Chitrahar’ dekha niye ki akaroN ashantir srishti korten, ar October maase sokoler maayerai rannaghor theke bola nei kowa nei ese fan nibhiye chole jeten, “thanda lege jabe” bole, ei aschorjo somapoton niye amra ghontar por ghonta jolpona chaliye thaki.

Kajei baba maayera kii o koy prokarer, doinik songbadpotre e niye niyomito lekhalikhi hole ami je gobhiir monojoge segulo follow korbo ebong amar sodyo songroho kora gnan apnader shonate asbo, se niye sondeho koratai bhul hoyechhilo apnar.

Literature review kore dekhchhi, muuloto dudhoroNer babamaayer kothai ghurephire aschhe. Ek nombor baba maa ‘Attachment parenting’ e bishwasii. shunetune mone holo, amar ebong amar beshirbhag chena lokeder maayeder i ei gotre phela jay. jNara roj school theke ele khata check koren, office-er shaRi na chheRei homework korate bose jan, School-e roj niye jan niye asen, nidenpokkhe kNadhe joler botol jhuliye bus-stand porjono bachhar sathe hNete hNete jan, sokalbela lake theke sNatar class kore pherbar pothe meyer haate bhejano chholabadam tule den.

Dwitiiyo gotrer baba maayeder naam ‘Helicopter’. naam shune andaj korchhi, enara chhelemeyeder mathar opor atondro prohoriir moto bonbon kore chorkipaak khan thik i, kintu nehat joruri na hole hostokkhep koren na. Parenting-er ei style ta shunei besh pochhondo hocchhe amar, kintu BangalibaRite er nomuna khub beshi dekhechhi bolle mithhye bola hobe.

Aro kichhu chhotokhato sub category achhe, jegulo beshirbhag i amar apnar kachhe aprasongik. jemon dhorun ‘Co-sleeper’ baba maa. ekta somoy porjonto amar babamaa-o tai chhilen, tobe tar pechhone parenting philosophy-r chaite ghorer abhab beshi prokot chhilo bolei amar sondeho. Tarpor amar jonyo ekti alada ghorer byabostha kora holo. bhoyanok gorbito mukhe se ghore eka shute shuru korar porer maase 3 baar johkon bhoyer chote majhhraate maake thhele tullam, kaan dhore amake punormushik hote baddhyo kora hoyechhilo mone achhe.

PhNaktale baba ekta asto ghorer malikana peye gelen. kopaler naam Gopal.

Bhebhe bhebe ami aro ducharte category baar korechhi. sobkoti i amar nijer chokhe dekha, kajei culture-jonito birodher somosya nei ei udahoroNgulote.

Remote control parenting. ei babamaayera (sotyi kotha bolte ki erokom maa dekhini, baba dekhechhi ajosro) remote control niye bose thaken TV r samne sofa-r opor. dorkar poRle remote chheRe control haate nen. shune ekjon khub jor golay bollen (jini nije abodharito ‘remote control baba’ hote cholechhen, sposhto dekhte pachchhi) “are oitai Helicopter parenting”, kintu amar tate ghor apotti achhe.

SaRe Chuattor-er Suchitra Sen-er babar role-e Gurudas Bandyopadhyay-ke mone achhe? 'Pashbalish' parenting-er utkrishtomo nomuna. etar sathe borong 'Remote control' parenting-er ekta mil achhe. Technology-r i ja tofat.

Arekti rokom o dekhechhi ami. ‘GhuRi’ parenting. suto haate dhoriye diye mohanonde akashe bhese beRachchhen. akashe, batashe, Kendulir melay, Assamer jongole. sutote taan poRle mukh niichu kore jante chaiben, “ki hoyechhe maa? kichhu dorkar achhe?”

Bolte badha nei, eiti amar favourite kind of parenting.

Apnar priyo konta? apnar babamaa kon category te poRben? ar apni nije?